Some Dating Profile Examples For Women Over 50!

A good dating profile for a woman over 50 is four or five specific sentences about your actual life, plus one line about what you are looking for. That is it. The examples below are written to be copied and adapted: change the details to your own and the structure will still work.

They are grouped by situation rather than by personality type, because what most people struggle with is how to handle their particular circumstances. Pick the closest example and swap in your own specifics.

14 dating profile examples for women over 50

1. Recently divorced

Thirty years married, two years divorced, and I have finally got the hang of living alone. I like it more than I expected. I read too much, I have opinions about crime dramas, and I have started swimming three mornings a week. I would like someone to have dinner with who has their own life and their own opinions.

Why it works: it acknowledges the divorce in one line without dwelling on it, then moves straight to who she is now. Name it once, move on is the right handling for any big life event.

2. Widowed

I lost my husband four years ago. It took me a while to want company again, and now I do. I garden badly, cook well, and I am the person who always suggests the walk. I am looking for someone kind to share ordinary evenings with, and possibly a trip to Portugal I have been putting off.

Why it works: honest, unapologetic and forward-looking. Mentioning a specific plan like the Portugal trip gives a reader something concrete to respond to.

3. Never married

I never married and it was never a tragedy. I have had a good career, better friends and a lot of freedom. Now I would like someone to share the good parts with. I run a book group, I am learning Italian slowly, and I am very good at finding the best table in any restaurant.

Why it works: it heads off the assumption that something went wrong, with humor rather than defensiveness. Confidence reads as attractive far more than explanation does.

4. Newly retired

Retired in March and I still have not got used to Tuesdays. So far I have joined a walking group, taken up watercolor and volunteered at the food bank, which tells you I do not sit still. I would like to meet someone with a bit of energy who fancies a day out somewhere neither of us has been.

Why it works: three concrete activities in one sentence, and a clear picture of the life she is offering. Show your week rather than describing your character.

5. Grandmother

I have four grandchildren and they are the best thing I have ever been involved in, but they are not my whole life. Between visits I sing in a choir, walk a great deal and watch far too much rugby. Looking for someone who understands that Sundays are often spoken for and is fine with that.

Why it works: it sets an expectation about her availability upfront, kindly. Setting expectations early filters out anyone who would resent it.

6. Still working, no plans to stop

I am 57 and I love my job, so I am not one of those people counting down. That said, I have got much better at leaving on time. Evenings are for cooking, live music and my two nieces. I would like to meet someone who has their own thing going on and is not looking to be someone’s whole schedule.

Why it works: it makes independence sound appealing rather than defensive. Describing what you want in terms of a life rather than a list of traits is far more effective.

7. Just moved to a new area

New to the area and still working out where the good coffee is. I moved to be closer to my daughter and I am rebuilding my social life from scratch, which is more fun than it sounds. I like markets, long walks and anything involving a map. Recommendations welcome, company more so.

Why it works: it turns a vulnerable situation into an invitation. Asking for recommendations gives every reader an easy opening message.

8. Empty nester

The last one left for college in September and the house is extremely quiet. I have filled it with a piano I am learning to play and a very demanding cat. I like theater, long lunches and being outdoors in bad weather. Looking for someone to make plans with rather than someone to fill the time.

Why it works: the last sentence does real work. Naming what you want rules out the wrong people without sounding harsh.

9. The traveler

I have been to 31 countries and I am not finished. Last year was Vietnam, this year I want to walk part of the Camino. Between trips I work, see friends and plan the next one obsessively. I would love to meet someone who travels well, which mostly means being cheerful about delays.

Why it works: specific numbers and named places make it memorable. Specific destinations invite questions in a way that I love to travel never does.

10. Happiest at home

I am not going to pretend I want to go hiking every weekend. I like my house, I cook properly most nights, and my idea of a good Saturday involves a market, a long lunch and a film. I would like someone to do that with, and to occasionally drag me somewhere further afield.

Why it works: honesty about not being adventurous is rare and refreshing. Being clear about pace attracts people who genuinely fit.

11. The creative one

I paint, badly but constantly, and my spare room has been surrendered to it. I taught for thirty years, retired, and immediately got busier. I like galleries, second-hand bookshops and people who can be quiet without it being awkward. Looking for someone thoughtful, ideally with their own obsession.

Why it works: the last four words are a filter and a compliment at once. Self-deprecating specifics read as confident rather than modest.

12. The dog person

Sadie the spaniel gets two hours a day whether I like it or not, so I am outside in all weathers and I have got to know half the town. Otherwise: crosswords, a lot of Radio 4, and a running argument with my brother about football. Would like someone who does not mind mud.

Why it works: the dog gives every reader an immediate opening. A recurring routine tells someone how a life with you would actually look.

13. Coming back after a long break

I have not dated in about twenty-five years and I am aware that is obvious. I am doing it anyway. I am 61, I work part-time in a garden center, and I am happier now than I was at 40. I would like to meet someone patient enough to have a coffee and see what happens.

Why it works: naming the nervousness disarms it completely. Admitting you are new is far more attractive than performing confidence.

14. Short and direct

Fifty-eight. Nurse, three days a week. I swim, I garden, I read history. I laugh easily and I do not do games. Looking for something steady with someone who says what they mean. Coffee first, see how we go.

Why it works: five short sentences, complete picture, no wasted words. Brevity signals confidence, and it is often the most-answered kind of profile.

Three profiles that do not work

The list of demands. No liars, no cheats, no time wasters, no men under 6ft, no one still living with their mother. If you cannot spell, do not bother. Everything here may be reasonable, but the profile is entirely about what she does not want, so a reader learns nothing about her and everything about her last relationship. Fix: turn one demand into a positive. I get on best with people who say what they mean.

The wall of adjectives. I am a caring, honest, loyal, fun-loving lady with a good sense of humor who loves laughing, family, and long walks on the beach. This describes roughly half the site. Nothing in it is false and nothing in it is usable. Fix: replace every adjective with an example. Swap adjectives for evidence and the same profile becomes distinctive.

The apology. I am not very good at these. I do not know what to write. I am probably too old for this and my daughter made me sign up. Modesty is fine; opening with three reasons not to message you is not. Fix: keep one line of honest nervousness, then say something you actually like. Example 13 above does exactly that.

Choosing your photos

Use four to six recent pictures. One clear head and shoulders shot where you are looking at the camera and your face is unobstructed, one full length, and two or three showing you doing something you actually do: walking, at a table with friends, in the garden, on a trip.

Avoid sunglasses in the main photo, group shots where nobody can tell which one is you, heavily filtered images and photos taken in the car. Use recent photos only, since out-of-date pictures are the single most common complaint people report after a first meeting.

One natural smile beats five carefully posed shots. If you dislike photos of yourself, ask a friend to take a few while you are doing something, rather than trying to pose.

Do’s and don’ts

• Do write in your own voice, including your own turns of phrase
• Do name two or three specific things you do in a normal week
• Do say what you are looking for in one clear line
• Do let your humor show if you have it, in the way you describe things rather than in jokes
• Do reread it out loud once before publishing
• Don’t list what you do not want
• Don’t discuss your ex, your divorce or your last relationship beyond one factual line
• Don’t apologize for being on a dating site
• Don’t copy a profile wholesale, including these ones
• Don’t use photos more than two years old

Adapting these to your own life

Take the example closest to your situation and replace every specific with one of your own. The spaniel becomes your cat, the choir becomes your bridge club, Portugal becomes the trip you keep postponing. The structure does the work: a concrete detail, a second one, a hint of humor, then a clear line about what you want.

Read it out loud when you have finished. If it sounds like something you would actually say, it is ready. Read it out loud and you will catch every sentence that came from a template rather than from you.

If you would like to see how this works in practice, you can create a profile on OurTime and browse members your age in your area for free. Every profile description and photo is moderated before it goes live, so what you read is what someone actually wrote. For the wider picture, our complete guide to dating after 50 covers first messages and first dates, and our guide to mature dating covers the rest.

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