How to Meet Older Ladies?

Looking for an older woman? You’re in luck—there are more of them out there than you might think. According to research conducted by the Pew Research Center in 2022, roughly a third of women aged 50+ are single, and that jumps to nearly 4 in 10 for women aged 65 and over. So, if you’re a single guy or girl looking for love over 50, you have plenty of options at your disposal.

Love is out there, and we’ll show you how to find it!

Here’s how to meet mature women and form meaningful relationships.

Use Our Online App

You’re already in the best place to meet older women. OurTime is a dating app designed with 50+ singles in mind. We have over 1.5 million members, with more hopping onto our platform every single day. There are countless single men and women in your area, and once you sign up and grab our app, they’ll all be just a couple of clicks away.

Key functionalities of the OurTime dating app

•         Created for daters over the age of 50
•         Free membership available
•         Streamlined and easy-to-use platform
•         Dating app for both iOS and Android
•         Easy profile creation
•         Suggested matches based on your preferences
•         Fast and secure in-app messaging service
•         See who has viewed or liked your profile
•         Search using a variety of parameters, including location, relationship status, and age
•         Use Mutual Matches to start a conversation
•         Use ConnectMe to create a unique member-to-member phone number
•         Expert dating tips to help you find your match and have a more meaningful experience
•         Dedicated support to help you when using our site or app

Over 1.5 million people have already tried OurTime!

You’re in good company when you join OurTime, as you’ll be joining over 1.5 million mature singles who already call this platform home. We’ve helped to kick-start countless conversations and dates, and there are thousands of happy couples out there who met on our platform. So, sign up, check us out, and see if you can start something great today.

Explore Shared Interests

Get out there and enjoy yourself doing what you love! Taking an active part in your interest is not only a great way to meet older women, but it also means you have something to talk about once you connect. You share a passion, and that’s going to make it much easier to break the ice.

Classes and workshops

Hobby classes and workshops are fantastic for exploring more of your current hobby or picking up a new one. Check with your local community center or browse online for workshops and experiences, including:

•       Cookery classes
•       Pottery making
•       Art classes
•       Wine/beer/whiskey tasting
•       Candy making
•       Cake decorating and sugar work
•       Knitting groups

Meetup groups

You don’t always need to use an activity as an excuse to meet up and chat with new people. There are also social groups that meet just to chat over coffee and cake. The members are usually a little older, and while they won’t all be single, many people use these groups to socialize like they wouldn’t at home.

Book clubs are also great ways to meet new people, provided you love to read and want to find someone who shares your passion. If fitness and adventure are more your thing, check out local walking/hiking groups. You could bump into a cougar or two as you traipse over those rocky trails!

Volunteer activities

Women are more likely to volunteer for their community than men, and this activity is also more common in older women than younger ones. You can do a lot for your community while showing your caring side and meeting like-minded older women.

There’s always somewhere that can use a helping hand, whether it’s handing out food or caring for animals at your local shelter. Don’t just make it about meeting women, though. Make sure you actually have an interest and will follow it through even if there are no suitable older women there for you.

Expand Your Social Circle

It’s much easier to meet mature women if you have a large social circle. Friends can set you up with co-workers, neighbors, and other friends. You may also bump into people at casual get-togethers. It’ll make life a lot easier for you!

Friends’ introductions

Let your friends know that you’re dating and give them an idea of the sort of person you’re looking for. You don’t have to explicitly tell them if it makes you uncomfortable. A simple mention of your current endeavors should suffice, planting a seed in their head so that they think of you when they bump into a single, suitable, older female friend who is also looking to date.

Your friends know you, so they should know what you like and will have an idea of whether a relationship with a mutual friend will work.

Social events

If your friend has invited you to a dinner party, birthday party, BBQ, or any other social event, embrace the opportunity and accept! You’re not a third wheel. There’s no shame in attending alone. And if you accept these facts, you could meet someone new. If you’re a little anxious about attending an event filled with couples, ask your friend who’s attending and encourage them to invite more single people.

Social media

Online friendship groups tend to be much larger than the ones we have in real life. You may be online friends with people you’ve never met but have known for years, as well as people who used to be part of your life but have since moved away. The same is true for your friends, all of them. So, engage with them more on social media. Like their posts on Facebook. Comment on their pictures on Instagram, and engage in conversation with friends of friends who do the same.

Just make sure you’re respectful and don’t start sending an unprompted and unsolicited string of messages to someone you have never spoken to just because you like the look of them.

Be Yourself and Be Genuine

Whether you’re dating online, chatting casually with friends of friends, or checking out local groups and courses, remember to always be yourself.

Let your personality shine

Always show them the real you. It’s normal to feel like you need to put on a show and be the person you think they want. But you’re dealing with mature women who have seen their fair share of inauthentic people and know the ways of the world. She will see right through you, so don’t hide your personality—let it shine!

If they’re not looking for someone like you, don’t worry. Many more women will disagree and consider you to be the perfect person for them. Think of it this way: if you change your personality now, the real you will slip out eventually, and if that’s not the person they want, the relationship may fracture. They’ll also wonder why you hid your true self from them.

Be open and honest with them

Not only should you let your personality shine, but you also need to be open about your life, likes, dislikes, and anything else that’s relevant. Go to films you wouldn’t usually see if they are passionate about them, and take their recommendations on board. But don’t pretend to be into something that you don’t like, and don’t proclaim to be an expert in something you’re terrible at—it’ll come back to bite you at a later date.

By the same token, if there is anything in your life or past that they need to know about, tell them. Are you separated? Are you divorced? Do you have kids? Being honest doesn’t mean you need to go into great detail about your past endeavors, but these are good things to know when you’ve just started dating someone. Yes, it might be a difficult conversation, but put yourself in their shoes—if you were single and didn’t have children, wouldn’t you want to know that the person you’re dating is recently divorced and has several children?

Honest communication

A lack of communication causes tension in the relationship, so open up and establish clear and honest communication from day one. You should be comfortable telling them anything and everything, whether it’s a nickname they call you that you don’t like or the way they act around your friends and family.

Being able to communicate with your partner in this manner prevents arguments and fosters a healthy relationship, and the earlier you start, the easier things will be going forward.

Respect boundaries

Everyone has boundaries, and just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean they should pull down those walls and let you in. If they are clearly not comfortable talking about their kids or a previous relationship, respect their wishes and steer clear of those conversations. They will tell you when they are ready. They should also pay you the same respects, staying away from conversations that make you uncomfortable and not probing when it’s clear that you don’t want to discuss something.

This is where all of that honest communication comes into play. You should feel comfortable sitting down with your partner and addressing certain topics that make you uncomfortable.

Summary: How to Pick up Older Women

If you’re looking for an older woman, you could be just a couple of clicks away. OurTime is a community for people just like you, and there are countless older women using our platform across the United States. So, sign up for your free account, create your profile, find your match, and start a new adventure today!

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